Girl100 Introduction

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Often, we see and adore girl bosses that we tend to feel envy with their confidence and what they’ve achieved, unknowing of their sacrifices and struggles in succeeding to where they are today. Welcome to Girl100, a podcast hosted by Ligaya Thompson and Jennifer Hawley, former colleagues in Corporate America who are now both girl bosses in their own fields. In this introduction episode, they talk about their personal insights of what a girl boss is, who do they look up to as a girl boss, and what they love the most being one. Be inspired by these ladies as they also share their backgrounds, life experiences, and what they believe is an excellent foundation of a strong woman.

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Girl100 Introduction

Hello to all the powerful women out there.

I’m Jenny.

I’m Ligaya. Welcome to Girl 100, where the topic is 100% girl talk and 100% authentic. We started this show to share our success with everyone, to share our experiences as a girl boss, and what it takes to thrive. We prioritize, we balance, and we keep it real.

What Is A Girl Boss?

Let’s start here with the basics. What we wanted to spend doing was let you all learn a little bit more about us, provide a brief introduction, share our definition of what a girl boss is and some real-life girl bosses out there that we follow. We always believe that a strong foundation for understanding will make you a stronger woman.

Jenny, do you want to introduce yourself and let everybody know something about you, and what your definition of a girl boss is?

My name is Jenny. I reside in Cincinnati, Ohio. I work as an Account Executive for a Forbes 500 IT and IT services company. Something interesting about me is I find real joy from being able to help people. I love it when friends or family come to me for advice because it shows how approachable and how powerful I can be with my words or advice.

What’s your definition of a girl boss?

A girl boss is a woman who knows her value and worth and will not accept anything less.

My definition of a girl boss is a woman that is in control. She is taking charge of her own circumstances in both her work and her life. It’s someone out there who knows her worth, knows her value, and will not accept anything less. What about you?

I have to agree with the worth and the value. A woman that knows what she’s worth and valued at will not put up with certain things in their life because they work too hard to get where they are. I also think that a girl boss is someone who knows where she’s going. She knows what she wants in life. She empathizes with everyone, but she doesn’t let a lot of things stand in her way. She’s up for the challenge. She’s resilient. She has feelings, don’t we all? To me, a girl boss is someone who looks at a challenge in the eye and takes it head-on. That’s a girl boss to me.

You bring up a good point of being able to empathize and have feelings. That’s so important, especially if you’re going to be a girl boss and you’re going out there to try and help people, and you’re trying to empower women. It’s being able to understand where they’re coming from, picking them up, and helping them get to what they consider their best place. It’s important. We need to go back. I don’t think we got to learn anything about you.

I didn’t get to introduce myself. My name is Ligaya. In the Filipino language, ligaya stands for the word happiness. I brought a lot of joy into my parents’ life when I was born. I’ll give you a little bit of background on me. Something that I enjoy in life and brings me pleasure is when other people are doing their thing, they’re thriving, and they’re happy, it makes me happy. It makes me feel whole and happy for that person in general. Everybody has a path, a story, and fighting some kind of demon in life. We all have our battles, our skeleton is in our closet, but when people are doing their thing and they’re thriving, I’m like, “That’s what’s up.”

That’s inspirational for me. I love seeing it. It makes me happy to see other people happy. I’m not one of those lowkey like “why is she doing better than me” kind of girls. They’re out there, but I’ve never been that type. I like seeing girls do their thing and seeing them have fun while they’re doing it. A little bit of background on me and what I do. I worked for Corporate America for thirteen years and I got a point where I was like, “I’m not feeling this anymore.” I left and ventured off into entrepreneurship. Me and my husband are real estate investors. We’ve been investing in real estate for several years. We own rental properties across three different cities in Texas. We’re still building our portfolio but we’re doing pretty damn good. After I left Corporate America, I went into real estate. I’m a full-time realtor. I’m also working on getting a clothing line started.

When I was younger, I studied fashion in college and it’s always been my thing to want to start my own line. More to come on that, it’s a project in the works and I’m super excited about it. Leaving Corporate America, entrepreneurship has been my thing. Real estate is my thing. I love it. I spent a lot of time learning about it and engaging in those real estate conversations. Corporate America never had my attention like that. It was a safe place. It provided money and benefits for the family, but I was never as engaged in Corporate America as I am with real estate and what I do. That’s a little bit of background on myself.

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Girl Boss: A girl boss is someone who knows where she’s going. She knows what she wants in life.

Balancing Motherhood And A Career

It’s interesting because we talk about a lot. We talk about our passions and what makes us happy. That’s a lot of what we’re going to be covering from week to week. It’s talking about what makes us truly happy in our work, but also our personal life. You did forget to mention that you are also a strong, powerful mom.

I’m a mother. I’m married to my high school sweetheart several years ago. We have four beautiful kids together. I was a young mom. We had twins before we graduated college. The odds were against me having two kids as a freshman in college. It was like, “How am I going to make this happen?” I managed to get married, raise a family, and have a career at the same time. I did my thing and I grew up at a young age because becoming a mom at a young age forces you to mature earlier than you want to. It wasn’t always easy. There were times where I struggled with wanting to have more of a social life than I did, but I look back and I don’t regret a thing. I love every choice I’ve made and I am so happy to be where I am. There’s never a dull moment being a mom. I love it. Thanks for reminding me that I’m a mother.

You’re welcome because not only are you doing all this entrepreneurship but you’re doing it while you have four kids. Ligaya has such a wonderful family. Shout out to Abraham and London and the twins, to her husband, Brian, the coolest guy ever. It’s interesting. We didn’t bring this up at the beginning, but we come from different backgrounds. We come from different walks of life. We met in Corporate America. How we came together is we both had one common goal that we wanted to be powerful. We had goals. We wanted to go somewhere and do something.

We wanted to do more than just take orders from people at the office. Working next to you in the cubicle, I saw where you’re naturally competitive. I remember you would hear me cold call and then all of a sudden, you’d be dialing hard on the phone and amp up doing your cold call. It wasn’t like, “She’s crazy.” I was like, “She’s competitive, but in a good way.” You had a standard for yourself. You never wanted to let anyone outshine you, not because you’re arrogant but you knew what you brought to the table. We clicked that way because we ended up doing lunch together and ride along together in the office and staff. I showed you the way. I showed you some things where I’m like, “They don’t want us to do it like this, but this is how we do it. We work smarter, not harder.” In the end, you were one of the few apprentices that came into the program that you were a part of and you were successful because you showed up early every day. You were there before the lights were on.

Sometimes, I was the one turning the lights on in the morning.

You would be there, and you’d be cold calling. You put in a full day’s work, you’d go home, you’d come back, and you do it again. I never saw any less from you. It’s where you and I saw eye-to-eye that we can still have fun and we can still be serious at the same time.

Let’s not forget, we were also co-social chairs of the team. We had to plan all of our social events and our happy hours.

There’s a certain uncomfortableness of not knowing everything and being able to learn and pick something new up every single day.

Go away parties for our favorite manager that left us.

We did a lot on that team and we clicked well together. Even though we ended up going in two different directions, you ended up leaving Corporate America and going towards entrepreneurship. I eventually left the company and then I ended up where I am right now. I’m still in Corporate America but also enjoying my job. I love my job and I love the company I work for. I love their culture, learning, and being in an environment where I am challenged every single day. There’s a certain uncomfortableness of not knowing everything, being able to learn and pick something new every single day. I love being in Corporate America. I love that structure that I have. We still ultimately do have the same goal of being girl bosses, how do we get there, what do we do, how are we going to go out there, and smash through those brick walls with our stiletto heels. We talked a lot about that and we talked quite a bit about what our definition of a girl boss is. We gave a lot about our background. Do you have anyone in your life or anyone that you look up to, Ligaya, that you think is a girl boss?

Moms For Girl Bosses

There are a few investment groups that I’m a part of like networking groups. There are some ladies in particular that they’re about their game. They know their stuff, they’re investing, they’re buying homes, and sharing their knowledge. Those are inspirational people to me because, as a real estate investor, I want to be able to one day pass down that knowledge to others that want to learn. If there’s one person in particular that has been my biggest inspiration in life in general, it’s my mom. Moms for girl bosses. It’s a full-time job being a mom whether you have a job or not. Being a stay-at-home mom which I experienced after I left Corporate America, that’s a job in itself. That’s a stressful job. You don’t get days off. You don’t get sick days. If you don’t feel good, so what? Get up and the kids need breakfast.

My mom, I was a hardheaded teenager, but looking back, she did everything that she could. Her story is so touching to me because my mom came here from the Philippines back in the late ‘60s. She was sixteen years old and got picked out of all her siblings to come out here and be what they call an au pair. For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s someone from a foreign country coming in to raise a family and be a nanny in the household. She came in and she did that. She never saw her mom again or her grandparents. Her siblings, she did see again. Fifty years later, we were able to reunite them. I know a lot of her story. Everything that she sacrificed to get here and all the stuff that we put her through.

My parents ended up divorcing. My dad left my mother for someone else. It was hard to see, but to see her go through such a hard time and then to see her bounce back from it. Now, she’s living her best life. She loves her grandkids. They love her. She did it by herself. She didn’t have anyone around her telling her how to be. She just grew up. One day she woke up and said, “You’re going to America. Hopefully, we get to see you again.” She made it. She’s doing her thing. I see so much strength in her with everything that’s been handed to her. In a nutshell, that’s been her life but there have been so many other cards handed to her that I’ve seen her handled.

If you know my mom, my mom is 4’11”, short, little Asian woman. She’s got a lot of bark to her but she loves you. She’ll feed you and then she’ll cut you. She’s a strong woman. I think about my stresses now and what are some things that stress me out. My problems are small compared to the things that she was dealing with not having her family around growing up, not having her mom around, and having her husband leave her. I think about it and I’m like, “If she can do it, I can do it.” That’s my mom. What about you? Do you have anyone in your life that’s an inspiration to you as a girl boss?

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Girl Boss: It’s a full-time job being a mom, whether you have a job or not.

I’m going to take a little bit of a different route. Not someone I know personally but someone I would love to know personally is actress, writer, and comedian Mindy Kaling. Everyone knows her from The Office. In doing a lot of the research that I did on her as a person, not only is she funny, but she’s smart and witty. She holds herself well. She does a lot for her community and stands up as such a powerful woman. Anything that she has done as a female, all the successes that she has done as a female, a writer, and a producer even a comedian, I like to think I’m funny or witty. I like to bring humor into almost everything I do. I see myself aligning a lot with her and what she does. As I said, not someone personal.

My mom is a wonderful woman too. She is pretty great in the way that she raised us as well. We had three girls. I was the middle child. I never got enough attention as that middle child. My mom was also in the military. She was a full-time working mom. She made sure that when we were growing up, we had everything that we needed, plus more. I truly believe that the way I am as an adult, the way I think, and the way I realistically look at the world through the lenses of realism. That truly comes from my mom and my dad as well. The sense that you have to be realistic. The world sometimes stinks and it’s going to be a sucky place. They call it tough love out there. When I tell friends or tell them stories about different things of my type of tough love, they’re like, “That’s mean.” I’m like, “No, that’s realism.” That’s truly something that I got from them. I appreciate them for that because it helps drive a lot of the decisions in my life.

It made you smarter and made you more aware. Those are some of the things that I try to teach my kids as a mom. My kids are growing up way different from the way I grew up. They’re living a pretty comfortable life compared to the life that I was raised in. My family did what they could, but we didn’t grow up in the suburbs. My kids are growing up going to nice schools and wearing nice clothes. I have to teach them that this stuff can be taken away from you. We took them to the Philippines so we could let them get a taste of reality like, “You’re living this comfortable life. You’ve got all this Wi-Fi, air conditioning, fridges, but let’s take you to where life could be like and where life is like for other people.” We wanted them to experience it. It stuck with them for a bit but then they came back to America and they shrivel back into being kids again.

#FirstWorldProblems.

I get where you come, realism, because I try to teach my kids like, “The world is not a flowerbed. Not everybody is your friend. People are going to be out to get you.” I told you I have trust issues with people because I’ve been screwed. I’ve been in situations where I’m like, “I thought that person was someone else. That person was trying to hurt me more than help me.” I try to teach my kids that like, “Keep your eye out for people. Be cordial and kind. Help people but know not everybody’s out there to be your friend. Not everybody’s out there for your best interests.” It’ll stick with them one day. One day, they’ll look back and be like, “Mom was right.” Right now, they’re like, “Mom doesn’t know anything. She grew up in a time where Wi-Fi didn’t exist.” I’m like, “What the hell does that mean?”

Life Happens

Some things that you mentioned there, those are things that are going to come up as topics on some of our upcoming episodes about building your circle of friends, understanding who should be in your life and who shouldn’t. I know we have a lot of interesting stuff on the docket for what’s going to be coming up next. To wrap things up here, we want you to understand that life is going to happen. Some days are going to be up, and some days are going to be down. It’s being able to roll with the punches sometimes. With those trials and those tribulations, it’s going to mold us into the best versions of ourselves. Keep tuning in as we discuss a little bit more on topics like goal setting and overcoming insecurities. Every woman has insecurities whether it’s her body. It can all be in your mind. We’re going to talk about stereotypes, friendships. Mental health is going to come up quite a bit. That plays a big part in both of our lives. We’ve been able to come to get a lot closer as friends having these boss girl conversations. We keep it authentic. Not every day is going to be a good day. You’re going to have bad days. It’s all about how you’re able to get through those bad days or bad months and come out stronger on the other side.

Next episode, we will be covering goal setting. We hope you tune in for that. If we’ve got your attention this far, keep tuning in because we are going to talk about goal setting, setting goals, and how to smash those goals too. Jenny and I are going to share some of our success stories, also some places where we didn’t necessarily have to change the goal but adjust and change the plan. We’re going to talk about that next. We do thank you for reading. We’re going to be signing off now.

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