Goal setting is the process of identifying what you want to accomplish and establishing measurable objectives and timeframes to help you achieve your goals. In this episode, Ligaya Thompson & Jennifer Hawley talk about how to set goals and how to keep track of them. To set good goals, they suggest we follow the “SMART” goal-setting system: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. To elaborate the process of goal setting further, Ligaya and Jennifer discuss how they came about achieving their goal of making this show a reality. Join in the conversation to learn more about goal setting!
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This is our first official episode of the show and we are talking about goal setting. I know we put an episode out, but it was more just an introduction and a light touch on who we are as people, professionals and girl bosses. Girl bosses set goals. In this episode, we are going to talk about goal setting, how we set goals and how we keep track of those goals. There are some successes with setting goals and there are some failures with setting goals. We are going to share them both, whether it comes from my professional or a personal perspective. Are you ready, Jenny?
I am so ready, ladies. Let’s talk about this.
I’ll go ahead and kick this off because something that I am passionate about is goal setting. We’re going to talk about setting goals and how we set goals. I don’t know if there is a right or wrong way to do it. A leader of mine that I used to work for back in 2010 or so said always to lap your results. When I talked to him about what does that means, he was like, “Check where you were this time last year.” I like to sit down in September or October and reflect on my year and how it’s going to end and it gives me an idea of my goals. Wherever date you’re at, check where you were this time last year and how far along have you come since then. When you reflect on where you want to go into the next year, how are you going to lap those results? How are you going to be better next year than you were this year? Do you have anything like that, Jenny, that you think maybe you thought of, whether it be a professional or personal goal?
Everyone’s goals are going to be unique and that’s also the big thing that we want to make sure that we address during this. Don’t set your goals according to somebody else’s because your goal should be unique to you. When you think of goal setting, the classic understanding of it is a process of identifying something that you want to accomplish and establishing those measurable objectives and timeframes to help you achieve it. The purpose of goal setting is that it can help you in any area of your life. People will set personal goals and professional goals.
When you learn how to set those goals and meet those goals appropriately, it becomes easier as you go along as to what’s appropriate as far as a goal. One of the problems that we’ll always run into is setting immeasurable goals. For instance, if I want to make $1 million but I want to make it next month, it’s not going to happen. Let’s take it back and let’s keep it real. Unless I win the lotto, I’m not making $1 million next month. It’s important when you set goals that you’re holding yourself accountable and you’re being adaptable when they need to change or you need to pivot. Most of all, be able to kick through those brick walls as your best girl boss self.
While we’re here to talk about how we set goals and how we attain those goals, we are going to keep it real and we’re going to spend some time talking about our real-life personal and professional goals. To touch on briefly how I set my goals because you talked a lot about it, too, is you write them down. Something I do is I work backward. I will set a goal and then you have to think about from that aspect of reaching it, “What are the things that I need to do in order to reach those goals?” You work backward and say, “This is where I’m starting. This is where I’m ending. What are the things that need to happen in between? When do those things need to happen in between?” Ultimately, that’s how I reach my goals.
I want to go back to where you said it has to be measurable. You have to quantify it. I can’t just be like, “I’m going to sell ten houses this year.” In real estate, if you’re a full-time realtor selling townhouses, it’s nothing. That can come in a couple of months or once a month. Let me keep it simple because not all of us are in real estate. “I want to make X amount of money this year.” With what you do in your profession, how will you make that money?
If you have a quota-base job or if you’re self-employed or if you work for a W-2 company, “I make this much money per transaction. In order for me to make this much money, I need to make this much money by the month.” It goes into where you talk about working backward, but it also ties into making sure it’s measurable. You can say, “If I know I need to hit 30 sales this month to get this payout on a commission check to get me towards this goal of X amount per year, for me to get 30 sales, I have to go on this many appointments. I have to make this many calls. I have to do this much advertising. I have to talk to this many more people in a day.”
That’s where we talk about you got to measure it, quantify it, and have a number that can help guide you in that direction. Think about personal goals. One of my goals in 2020 was I want to get two more stripes on my belt in jiu-jitsu. If I do that, this means I have to work on X, Y, Z because as a student with two more stripes on my belt, this is where I’m going to be. These are what these types of students know when they’re there. What do I need to work on right now? I need to train this many times a week. I need to work on my submissions, postures, and situational awareness. It ties into measuring it, quantifying it, and yes, definitely starting to envisioning yourself in that light, and then working backward on it.
This reminds me of an interesting methodology and a framework that I’ve seen thrown around quite a bit as far as when it comes to goal setting, helping us establish those clear milestones and evaluating what our goals are. Have you ever heard of the SMART method?
Yeah. When I was at Corporate America, that’s all they talked about but go ahead and break it down for us because I don’t remember off the top of my head.
There’s a methodology out there called the SMART goal setting system. Each letter of the word SMART stands for one aspect of the goal setting timeline. S is Specific, so being specific about what your goal is. Measurable, so being able to quantify it. Achievable, it’s something we talked about. Making sure it’s not unrealistic or impossible to accomplish within maybe a certain timeframe, so you don’t set yourself up for disappointment. R stands for Relevant, so make sure it’s relevant to you and your success, and then T stands for Time-bound, so think about the timeline for each goal. Something I also play into my method is something that you want to think about as you think about those goals.
When you talk about the T, the timeline, it was another thing that you do. You do want to put a date on it. Like my fitness goals, I had to say, “By the end of this summer, I want to have lost 10 pounds and got a little bit of a bigger butt,” or whatever that specific goal was. “By the end of the summer, this is what I want to look like physically. This is where I want to be physically in my health.” I don’t think I’m that close to that goal. I haven’t been doing as many squats as I said I should, but then you know. Check yourself before the summer and see where you’re at and see if you’re going to hit that target or not.
Make achievable goals so you don’t set yourself up for disappointment.
Is it possible that you’re going to hit that target if you maybe step it up a little bit or change your game plan up a little bit? If you don’t put a date on it, it’s not a goal. It’s just an idea. Putting a date on it is what seals the deal like, “This is a goal by this date. This is what I want to do.” Think about when we were in high school and some girls were like, “I want to be married by the time I’m 30.” They put a date on it, so it was a goal. “I’m going to go to college. I’m going to live my life and then I’m going to start looking for a guy to settle down within my mid to late-twenties. By the time I’m 30, I need to be married and working on my first kid because my biological time clock is ticking.”
How many times have we heard that conversation with women without knowing she’s setting goals? Another thing, too, that I like when I set goals is I write them down. Me and my husband set goals. We get together quarterly and talk about where we are with our business and real estate investing and stuff. I write my goals down in a notebook and I’ll bullet point it and I’ll leave it somewhere I can see. I like to put them on Post-it Notes.
I have these bright-colored Post-it Notes that I like to keep because they grab my attention while I’m working. One of them says Singapore because prior to COVID, a personal goal I had was I’m going to take my mom to Singapore in 2020. I didn’t get to do it because COVID happened. For an obvious reason, I had to pivot from that, but it’s still there because once the traveling restrictions lift and things get a little bit easier, I want to take my mom to Singapore.
Can I come with you?
Yeah. We can do a session of recording in Singapore. I write my goals down and I have this little board that I put pictures of my kids and my family and stuff. I’ll have my highlighted Post-it Notes that I can look at and say, “That’s your target. That’s your goal. That’s what you want to do. Don’t forget it.” Every day, when I’m at my desk, I can look up and I can see that I haven’t been to Singapore yet or I didn’t get those two stripes on my belt in 2020 because COVID changed a lot of people’s plans.
I write them down so I can always look at them because if you’re not looking at it constantly or have a system where you can go back in and look at it, then you’re going to forget what your goals are. We talked about how to set personal and professional goals. Make sure they’re SMART, then we also talked about keeping track of those goals. We talked about putting a date to it and leaving it somewhere you can see. Also, when you keep track of goals, sometimes, you’re going to have a goal where it’s like, “I’m not going to hit that,” for whatever reason, for something super obvious or because you just didn’t do your part.
The goal doesn’t necessarily have to change. I’m still going to take my mom to Singapore, but the plan’s going to change. Sometimes, you need to adjust your plan. I’m working on launching my own clothing line, so my goal was I’m going to have this launched by May, but I’m a little behind on certain things that I wanted to get done in order for me to launch by May. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I’m not going to launch the clothing line anymore, but maybe I have to push my date out a little bit and maybe I have to look where I am spending my time and why I am behind on things. Also, what can I do differently to get me back on track to those goals? The goal doesn’t have to change. Sometimes, you just have to change the plan.
Think about this exact instance of what we’re doing right now. Think about this podcast. I don’t know when that exact moment was when we decided, “We would make great podcast hosts,” just because of our personal and our professional relationship where we had a lot of similarities. We talked about that a lot in the introduction. Think about how many times we put off launching this show. We’re two busy people and there was a lot that came up in the middle. I changed jobs, I moved and I got a dog. I did many different things in between that ended up pushing back and we finally solidified that we’re like, “We’re going to do this.”
“What are we messing around for?”
We are like, “What are we doing?”
“What are we waiting for?”
“Why do we keep talking about we want to do this show? Let’s just do it.” It wasn’t until October that we started talking and putting pen to paper. Legally, what do we need to do to protect ourselves? Neither of us has done a podcast before. What kind of software do we need? What hardware do we need? Who’s going to do this editing for us? What are we going to talk about? What’s our podcast name? How do we design the logo? What’s this going to look like? What’s that going to look like? What’s our plan? It kept getting pushed. It was both of us but it was also stuff that’s coming up. We certainly don’t want to excuse ourselves from it, but here we are. We finally said, “We’re going to sit down and we’re going to do it.”
I talked about changing the goals and stuff like that. Remember when we first started this show, we had a totally different name in mind and we had a totally different idea of what we should talk about. We were like, “Let’s call ourselves the six-figure female, and let’s talk about girl boss stuff and women in the workforce.” As we meditated on it a little bit and as we let the idea simmer, I was like, “Jenny, I don’t know because we’re going to take away some of the people that we speak to. I don’t want to just talk to businesswomen. I want to talk to moms, too, because I’m a mom. I want to talk to single women that are dating because I got a lot of those friends in my life and I got a lot of mom friends. I got a lot of married friends in my life.”
I want to be able to talk to a different genre of people and talk about things that we can all relate to. It’s when we were in Fort Myers and we were like, “Let’s talk about being a girl boss.” “What are we going to call it?” We bounced different names back and forth, but that’s when we were like, “We’re going to call it Girl 100 because we’re going to keep it 100 on it.” That’s how the name came up, but then from there, we were like, “Let’s write it down, Girl 100. What’s our thing going to be? Who are we trying to reach on this one?”
We added a couple of more topics in there because, in the beginning, it was more just professional-related. We were talking about professionally, but now we’re like, “We’re going to keep it light. We’re going to talk about real stuff. We talked about professional, personal, mental health, and all these topics.” Once we wrote it down and put pen to paper and we were like, “This is what we want to do,” that’s when we started moving. We found this company that can help us produce our podcasts. We found graphic designers that can help us with some of our images. We’re like, “When are we meeting in Miami? Where are we going to go do it first?” That’s when we started moving, when we put a date to it and we knew this is what we wanted to do. I rambled a little bit on that one.
It’s definitely a great example of changing the goals, pivoting, and being adaptable. I remember when we finally started talking about it, we’re like, “We’re going to have our first podcast before the year ends,” and that didn’t happen and that’s okay. Stuff happens and failure does not equal defeat. There are times that the goal doesn’t change. You just have to personally be open to the changes that are going to happen with it.
You talked about failure not equaling defeat. You should learn from failure. You should be open to failure. You should fail fast. The faster you fail, the faster you can readjust your goals, change your plan, get back up, and go at it one more time. Failure is definitely a part of goal setting, but don’t be afraid to do it. We talked about keeping track of goals and have them written down and have a checkpoint.
Towards the end of the year, my husband and I usually get together and we’ll be like, “Where are we right now with our investment properties? Did we flip as many homes as we said we would this year? Did we put renters in these properties? Were we able to refi and cash out the way we wanted to?” We’ll usually say yes or no, or whatever, and then we’ll be like, “We did that. Where do we want to do it? What do we want to do next year? How are we going to close this year out strong? How are we going to make the most of the rest of our year? How are we going to start off on the right track in January?”
Think of some good timelines to where you know like, “I want to sit down around this day. I’m going to reconvene with myself or my business partner or my fitness trainer and have a checkpoint and see where I’m at and what I can do to close it out and start it off strong the next go around.” Something I’m passionate about is being real about those goals. Do you have any successes or failures, Jenny? We talked about success and failure, but do you have anything personally or professionally that you want to share?
Something that I did want to bring up before we go into this goal setting is to think about how many times during the New Year that you set yourself a New Year’s resolution.
I stopped doing those because they’re the same every year. “I’m going to lose weight.”
An interesting statistic that I found about New Year’s resolutions is 80% of all New Year’s resolutions are abandoned by February, so that leaves 20% who are setting them and continuing with them. Of that 20%, how many people successfully achieve those goals do you think?
30%. 20% of people continue with their New Year’s resolutions past February. 30% of that 20% achieved them.
My math’s a little fluffy. When you start throwing percentages at me, I’m like, “Pfft.” I’m going to throw in a jiu-jitsu analogy at you. Everybody goes into jiu-jitsu or martial arts or whatever, but they want to be a black belt. The goal is, “In ten years, I’m going to be a black belt.” What you find is there’s a handful of people that leave at the phases of being a white belt because they’re getting beat down on the mats all the time. They can’t understand this is a humbling sport and people of all shapes and sizes are going to come at you and vice versa.
Failure does not equal defeat.
You lose that book of white belts and then it moves into the blue belts. They get promoted into blue belts, but of those blue belts, that’s also a phase where it wipes out a lot more people because then, they’re in a different ball game now as a blue belt. It wipes out many more people because they start to see as you want to get better and jiu-jitsu and stuff, it takes more time. It’s a little bit more demanding. You have to be more committed to it.
If people make it past blue belts and if they make it into a purple belt, then there’s a better chance of them going on into black belt, but you lose a bulk of people as a white belt, and then you lose a bulk of blue belts because of that commitment and the goals of becoming a black belt starts becoming a little bit smaller. That’s how I relate to it. I know it was way different from the way you related to it, but I don’t do well with percentages on the fly sometimes.
You got to put it in real terms sometimes. That goes into a little bit of what we wanted to spend some time talking about. Whether professional or personal, what have been some of goals in 2021 or long-term? They could be things that you set in 2021. Tell me about some of your goals.
I have it written down. I had to move some of my goals from 2020 to 2021 because of COVID. Things didn’t go the way I wanted them to. Some of my personal goals, I put tone up for real this time. That’s what I have in my notes. Prior to COVID, I was on it. I was in the gym all the time. My kids weren’t at home. They were at school, so I’d go work out during the day, then I’d go to jiu-jitsu, and then spend some time in the sauna. I was doing my thing and I was probably in good shape, but then COVID happened and gyms shut down. People started eating a little bit heavily or drinking more, so that changed.
Have you seen alcohol sales numbers in 2020? We won’t get into it. It’s crazy.
I bet. What else was there to do when you’re home all day? There were times where we were home all day and we couldn’t go anywhere because everything was shut down. I’m like, “It’s 12:00. Do you think it’s too early to have a glass of wine?” I’m definitely toning up for real this time. It’s my goal and it’s where I want to be at the end of 2021. I don’t want to put that pressure on me and having them have that beach bod by the summer because I don’t have it. I pushed back. I wanted to get two stripes on my belt in 2020 and I didn’t because of COVID and gym shutting down. It was harder for me to train because my kids are always home, so I can’t get away to the gym when I want to.
I added one for my personal goal. I put that I want to compete again. I competed one time in Brazilian jiu-jitsu and I’ve been thinking about doing it again more so for the mental training. Not necessarily because I want to be Billy Badass or anything like that. When I competed last time, I remember mentally the space that it put me in and how it helped me on a personal level as well. I want to push myself through that again and see if I can do that. When it came to goals in 2020, on a professional note, something big changed.
I quit my corporate job and that was not part of the goal. I quit because I came to a point where I needed to quit. Before I quit, my husband and I sat down and he’s like, “You’re going to quit your job. You want to do real estate full-time. You want to manage our investments full-time. Let’s write down what you’re going to work on.” Not just me, but both of us work on it together. We wrote some things down. I called him when I was reflecting over our notes on where we were with our goals in 2020. I called him and I was like, “Are you busy?” He’s like, “I got a little bit of time. What’s up?” I was like, “Those goals that we set in 2020 for real estate investment, we checked every box in those goals.”
It was such an exciting feeling because we were focused and we were constantly meeting with each other to talk about, “Where are we on this? Have you talked to that contractor yet? Have you hit up that homeowner yet?” Whatever conversation real estate investors have. We hit every single one of our investment goals, but where we fell short is setting new goals for 2021. It’s been such a busy time because we moved into a newer home. Doing that with kids and the holidays, we haven’t had time to sit down and set those goals.
We do have things in the pipeline that I’ve written down. There are a couple of houses on our target for flips. I want to buy a home in Florida in 2021, specifically in Tampa, and I want to do it before the year ends. I’m trying to wait to see if the temperature of the market simmers down because it’s a crazy time in real estate. I set some goals on how much money I want to make as a full-time agent because I was doing this part-time in 2020. I didn’t make the salary that I made at Corporate America being a part-time agent, but I also didn’t put myself out there and didn’t want to because I was still reenergizing. Those are my goals. I shared where we had some success on it and where I had to adjust it. What about you? Do you have anything you want to share on that topic? Any successes or failures?
There’ve been so many different changes in my personal life as well as my professional life. Since 2017, I’ve worked for three different companies. I’m always looking on the move and always looking for a new challenge if I feel that I’m at a point where I’ve mastered my craft in a particular role. Some of my personal goals much like you and every woman out there can say they want to be healthier. What I do is set basic goals. I’ll tell you which ones are basic. I work to define exactly what that means to me specifically. Some of my goals were to be healthier. That can be many different things. That can be mental health, physical health and spiritual health. That can mean a lot of different things.
When I sit down and think about, “When I say I want to be healthier, what does that mean to me?” For me, it was being physically healthy and being mentally healthy. It’s addressing your mental health and being in a comfortable and happy place. For me, that was one of my goals, and how I knew I was going to get there was when I am more happy than sad. It took a long time. We’re going to talk about how mental health has played an aspect in both of our lives and being open to therapy and getting help when you need it. From the physical health side, I’m not saying like, “I have these jeans in my closet when I was an infant that I want to fit into.” That’s silly.
“I want to get back in my size fourteen juniors.”
“In my size when I wore diapers.” For me, it was, “I want to fit in these jeans that I fit into when I was 25.” It was a time when I thought that I felt the healthiest in my life. I took out those jeans and I said, “What do we need to do to fit into these jeans? We need to start eating healthier. Check. We need to start going to the gym more. Check.” What that meant was I needed to go find somebody because I’m not a dietician, a bodybuilder or a personal trainer. I don’t know what goes into that sometimes. I had to go find a team of people that were going to help me ultimately reach my goals.
What that ended up being was a personal trainer. I told the personal trainer my goals and he said, “Here is your new diet plan.” I said, “Okay.” He said, “We’re going to work once a week together. Here’s what I want you to be doing in your free time. Once a week, we would get on that nasty scale and I would take different measurements.” For me, personally, when it comes to those types of goals, I never want to see what’s on the scale. I never want to look at the number, so I let him keep track of measurements and all he would tell me is, “You lost three pounds last week. You lost two pounds last week. Over the holiday break from December through the end of January, you gained seven pounds. We need to calm down.”
We need to cut back on the eggnog.
We need to cut back on that yule log, that chocolate cake and roll it up. We need to cut back on that and the cheesecake. We worked together and it was up and down. You’ve got to understand. Go with the flow. At the time, my timing for that was August of 2020 was the date that I wanted to get there. That gave me a good amount of time to get there. Because of COVID all this stuff happened, all the gyms shut down so it’s something that I’m still working on. My end date or my goal date has certainly changed. There have been some other changes, too. That’s one thing. I made the goal, I almost got there but there were a couple of steps back so now I’m back into it. That’s something good. Also, when I talk about these basic goals. I set things like, “Be more independent.” “Find a new ‘home.” “Start dating again.” Dating is hard in COVID let me tell you.
I also think dating gets harder as you get older. I’ve been out of the game since I’ve met Brian, basically, which was high school, but I have a lot of friends that still date and it gets harder as you get older and because people are damaged goods. As we get older, everyone’s been screwed and burnt. They don’t want to commit anymore. I can see where that can be a scary pool to get into. I don’t want to get off-topic, but when I left corporate America and my husband was like, “When are you going to start advertising yourself as an agent,” and all that stuff that was supposed to be a part of some goals.
I was like, “Leaving the company that I was with, after for so many years, I felt like I got a divorce. Putting myself out there again, as a professional, I feel I’m having to date again.” I was like, “I want to do it, but I’m scared and I don’t want to commit.” He thought I was weird for using that analogy. He’s like, “You’re overthinking it in your own way.” In a sense, with dating games, you want to put yourself back out there and that’s where I was professionally in 2020. I’ve got to put myself back out there.
Start dating again. One, it makes my mom happy that I’m not going to be alone forever for the rest of my life with 50 cats. Also, it’s like you said. It’s all about putting yourself back out there and I’m like, “Do I have to? I rather stay at home in my sweatpants?”
Going back to being more independent or finding a new “home” I asked myself, “What would I define that as?” Be more independent. Is it financially independent or feeling more free? What exactly does that mean to me? When it goes into finding a new “home” finding a new home is for me is a feeling. It’s not necessarily a place. I spent some time living in Texas for about three years and we worked together, but Texas never truly felt like it. It could have been a number of different things, the environment but it never truly felt like home because home is a feeling. It’s a vibe and a mood. Those are two similar goals being more independent and finding a new home.
For me, as far as the independent part that was me almost allowing myself to start over. Clean the slate. Start a new job with a new company and be in a new physical place. That brought me back to Ohio where I am far enough away from my family that they don’t show up on my doorstep every weekend. They have yet to come and visit me and I’ve been down here for more than two months. It’s finding a group of friends in the town that I’ve never lived in. How do I do that? How do you make friends? There is something interesting that happened to me. I went on a dog date. It’s not an actual date.
Are you trying to set Swoops up with someone?
I brought me and this person’s dog who I knew. We live in the same city, so we met at a dog park. They got along and he’s like, “Me and my wife, sometimes we have friends over and they have dogs.” I was like, “I’ll let you know.” I got a message from him and he’s like, “We’re going to have someone so and so come over with his dog and someone so come up coming over with her dog. We’re going to have a taco night.” I’m like, “Awesome.” It also is Swoops’ birthday.
Swoops is her dog, people.
The faster you fail, the faster you can readjust your goals.
We’re having a birthday party with humans and dogs. It is starting to feel like home. It’s a place where I can be happy and have a new group of friends, have a stable job, have my gym, my grocery store and feel that vibe that you’re in a place that you’re supposed to be.
It sounds like you’re still trying to narrow in on those goals because I can totally relate to making friends again and having something that feels like home because, in my first two years in Austin, I was like, “I don’t know about this. I think I want to go back to Houston.” Austin still does not feel home to me but Brian says the same thing, “Home is not a place.” He doesn’t say that it’s a vibe but he says, “Home is where the family is.”
He should start saying it’s a vibe.
He’s going to be like, “I don’t understand what that means.” My husband’s super serious but like what he says, “Home is not a place, Ligaya. Home is where me and the kids are. That’s home. Wherever we are I’m home.” I’m all like, “You got me there,” but it did take time for me to open up to being away from home, which is Houston. I’ve got H town represented all day long. My Austin friends told me, “This girl can’t go anywhere without reminding people where she’s from.” It sounds like you have some goals and you’re still trying to figure it out but I want to challenge you as not as your friend and also as your co-host in the show. I want to challenge you to put some dates on those things and think about it.
Try to break it down, if you haven’t already. Try to put a number to it. If you want to find a home, where do you think that home is going to be? When do you want to find a home and if you want to find a home by this date, what is it going to take to get to that homely environment? It’s some of the stuff that we talked about. Since we talked about goal setting and we’re going into the month of April 2021, at the end of the year it would be a good idea to circle back around to this topic and see where you and I ended off with the goals that you listed off and the goals that I named off. It’d be pretty cool to see, “Did I get those stripes on my belt? Am I able to take my mom to Singapore?” Those are things that we can’t control but not now at least, but it’d be a good idea to circle back around to it and stuff.
Goal setting is exactly what it is. It’s goal setting, but it’s not a goal until you put time into it. Put a date on your goals. I spoke to you a lot professionally and some of my personal goals. Jenny talked to you about her personal goals, too but it doesn’t matter if you’re a stay-at-home mom, you’re a working woman, or wherever you are in life. Everybody should be setting goals. If you’re not setting goals, where are you going? How are you progressing? How are you living?
Also, get an attachment to your goal. When you find somewhat of an emotional attachment to the success of that goal, you’re going to be more likely to achieve them. Get that emotional attachment. Why is this important to you? When you define why it’s important to you, you’re going to find that emotional attachment to and you’re always going to be thinking about it. What do I need to do to ultimately get there? I talked a little bit about building your support team.
You and I talked about measuring where we are at the end of the year and having those trustworthy individuals who can help maintain your focus and provide motivation and be an accountability partner. We go back and forth a lot, especially on goals. I come to you for some professional advice, and you’ve come to me for different health advice because we have realized that when we set those goals, it’s best to bounce them off each other.
You can’t get there alone, is what she’s saying.
Go out there and create your momentum that pushes you to achieve your greatness and go farther than you went on your own.
You talked about having an emotional attachment. I have definitely had an emotional attachment to one of my goals as a mom. Working for Corporate America for thirteen years, I’ve also dealt with guilt or working mom guilt for thirteen years. Towards the end of my run at Corporate America, I would tell my husband, “I want to be with my kids more. I want to be around more. I want to be able to greet them at the door when they get off the school bus or I want to be able to drop them off in the morning and say, ‘Have a good day.’” I want to do those things. It was always scattered when I got to do those things. I wanted to show up more for them.
Part of the conversation when I was leaving Corporate America was, “This is going to give me time.” My twins are going into high school in 2021 and I and I personally believe as a parent that these are the years that you do want to be around your kids because I remember when I got into high school, that’s when the trouble started to happen. I wanted to be able to be around for them. I want to be around for them a little more to make sure they don’t get into that stupid trouble. Also, they know that they have a mom at home that is there, listens, and wants to make a hot meal for them after a sports game or something like that.
Emotionally I was like, “I want to be with my kids more.” Maybe this is a good topic for another time because working mom guilt or mom guilt never goes away. Even now, I’m with my kids more and my daughter tells me all the time, “Mommy, I love that you’re always home.” Sometimes it’s great having them around more and sometimes I’m like, “I’m trying to work now. I need you to tone it down.” That was an emotional thing for me. I want to be there for my kids more so how can I be there for my kids more and leaving Corporate America opened that door for me but also knowing that I’m going to go into real estate to set my hours, schedule and I can turn down clients if it doesn’t fit. That opened the door for me to be able to be there more for my kids. I liked how you talked about that emotional thing there.
We spend some time during this episode talking about how we set goals, how we attain those goals, how we keep ourselves accountable and how we are adaptable when we need to change. We talked a lot about some of our professional and some of our personal goals. Is there anything else that you think we should be covering and helping these ladies do now?
I don’t think so. I know that you need to write it down, put a date to it, keep track of it, and know that you can’t get there alone. Have a team that’s going to back you, have a mentor, have a guide, and have that bestie that you can call. For moms out there, have a mom friend that you can go to the park with and take your kids to. Let your kids run around and play while you guys get your free time, talk about life, and keeping up with yourself and stuff.
I don’t think there’s anything else that I want to talk about. We can go ahead and wrap it up if you don’t have anything you want to add. That’s goal setting in a nutshell and I do want to touch back on this maybe later on in the year circle back to goal setting and see where we are. Ladies, we would love your feedback on this, on what you thought about this episode with goal setting. Can you relate to it? Is there something else that you would like to hear us talk about?
If there is, shoot us an email over at HeyGirl@Girl100.com and send us some feedback on this episode and let us know what you thought about it. We’re going to sign off from here. In the next episode, we’re going to talk about girl hate and how to stop the girl hate. If you don’t have anything else to add Jenny, I don’t have anything else to add so we can go ahead and sign out. Do you want to do our sign-out that we always want to do?
Absolutely. Ladies, understand whatever girl boss that you decide to be, keep it 100.
We’ll talk to you all in the next episode.